It seems none of these concerns were communicated to me in the same tone as now, aside from a single, lightly worded email in early August. (We stayed there from June to mid August, and I took action on the email.) Some points I'd like to address:
1) Bathroom clutter: Lane rented out ONE bathroom to FOUR people, and I can't see how he was able to distinguish my bathroom supplies from anybody else's. I didn't mind the clutter, if you read my relatively concise review of the stay. I hate to quote from personal communications, but this seems to be the only way to explain how "nuanced" the feedback was:
"The counter seems pretty cluttered. You guys seem to be making it work, but it might be best to place items a little further from the sink bowl so it feels a little less claustrophobic. Feel free to use the drawers and shelving."
2) Discarding empty shopping bags and shoeboxes: I left two shoeboxes and a few shopping bags lying around, well within my personal area. I discarded the shopping bags when I left, and as for the shoeboxes, feedback was nuanced indeed. The only quote from that email:
"It seems someone is saving empty shoeboxes...they are by the door."
3) General upkeep of the place: the three of us paid almost $1k per month EACH, just to share a SINGLE living room. More specifically, I slept on a couch, Friend 1 slept on a mattress by the door, and Friend 2 slept on a hard tatami by said couch.
Now, don't get me wrong - we weren't expecting a spacious stay. However, we did expect that a certain degree of clutter would be natural from such cramped quarters. We made special care to leave certain areas like the dining table clear, and it was only after a few weeks of seeing nobody else use the area that we started leaving our laptops around. After all, we WERE paying $3k a month for a single living room, and I had an extremely busy summer, staying at work from about 11am to 3am each day.
I respond great to direct feedback and thought we had left on great terms. Perhaps he should have "escalated" earlier.