I am sorry that Susanna Kumlien feels the way she does, and sorry that she was not able to represent the situation truthfully here. Susanna did know when I was coming yet was not home when I arrived. I was willing to communicate with her (and did so by e-mail), but I did not think she had to know all the details of my comings and goings. I appreciate the effort she made to help me, but she should not try to push her opinions of what to do on her guest and insult their choices. I was not looking for a personal relationship with Susanna or to become her friend, as she seems to feel was the purpose of my visit. I was attending a conference and thus did not have time for long conversations. I am sorry that she interpreted my attempts to return to my work as a snub.
Susanna's space is perhaps inappropriate for sharing since she cannot tolerate the noise of her guest going to the bathroom at night or having the light on in the bedroom even with the door closed.
As for the rental arrangement, I believe that I left the place clean and tidy. I made an effort to bother Suzanna as little as possible.