I'm sorry to say that I also felt that way but this response is completely biased.
Read all of my reviews and you can get a sense that I am completely respectful of other's belongings. Perhaps in your listing, you shouldn't put all the amenities if you do not plan on allowing your guest to use it.
When we arrived, I was told to help yourself to the produce and breakfast items in the fridge. Perhaps this is why Rochelle is responding this way. We cleaned up everything we used, ask permissions for everything. I am quite surprised by this response.
We did also feel a bit uncomfortable here. Specifically that Rochelle invited 2 other guests over her place without any notice prior to our arrival.