I sincerely apologize that you found the house unacceptable. My friends and I made a sincere effort to clean up after ourselves and thought we left the place rather clean. We did pay for the cleaning service and (maybe presumptuously) thought some of the smaller cleaning items would be covered under that service.
I will take full responsibility for not leaving a note: I had intended to send you a message on Airbnb the day we left, and it slipped my mind. I know this is your place and your belongings, and leaving a physical note would have been the best way to handle things. A second apology for any broken glass going into the recycling. Under the circumstances, I would understand if you wanted to take something out of the security deposit to cover the broken items.
As for the recycling, we thought we did a good job of separating out the recycling, compost, and trash. We're all accustomed to single stream recycling (all plastics, paper, glass, and aluminum go in together), so if this is different than what your town accepts, then we may have unknowingly put item in the recycling that didn't belong there. Other than that, all I can say is that we tried and any apologies for missed items.
I emailed my friends about the nightware - this is also a complete surprise to me and I apologize for the gross factor and additional cleaning.
We made a good effort to follow your instructions that you left (which were very helpful) and please know that anything we did wrong was not intentional. We did have a wonderful time at the house and thank you for letting us stay there for the weekend. I know apologies can only go so far, so please feel free to contact me to discuss these items further if you would like.