Thank you for taking the time to write such an exhaustive review pointing so many points of improvement.
Your case was a curious one, in your words everything that other people rave about, cleanliness, welcoming home, all instructions clear etc. was not in place after we used the same housekeepers we usually use, and the very same instructions we usually use etc.
The other curious matter was that you had left the place in wide disrepair, with broken items, to which you did not admit, although the same housekeeper who prepared the house for your arrival was there minutes after your departure.
Yes, we did charge you a bit extra, and that is in our house rules for all to read, but not nearly enough to cover all the damage your family's visit had cost us materially and emotionally.
I shall not comment any further, as it is not really worth it. I would only suggest that you will be more suitable staying in a hotel than disrespect some other poor host and bully them throughout your visit and beyond.